Tziva - my introduction
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Tziva at 10:29 AM on February 13, 2005
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Hello, my name is Tziva. I have to admit that the whole mikvah process is a mixed bag for me. I enjoy the results. The actual dunking I find a spiritual experience. The prep I dread, it is stressful and tiring. It brings out OCD tendancies in me. I could spend a whole day sloughing off dead skin, cleaning my belly button and ear ring holes and recutting fingernails until they hurt. By the time I leave for the mikvah I am exausted. I need to find a way to put some perspective into my preperations and maybe even a touch of spirituality.
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On February 16, 2005 at 12:57 PM, eden said:
Welcome, fellow OCDer! We should commiserate sometime. :)
I wrote you a whole long post the other day about what helped me, and then lost it when I accidentally closed the window. Which serves me right for two reasons: (1) I was supposed to be leaving for work, and (2) you didn't ask for my advice.
But I did want to say briefly that for me, a lot of my anxiety was about trust and control -- not trusting anyone else to tell me I'm kosher, needing to make 1000% sure myself. And it really helped when my therapist pointed out to me that this is one of the beauties of the system: once you ask a rabbi, and he gives you a psak -- or once you ask the mikvah lady, and she tells you it's kosher -- it's not on your shoulders anymore if they made a mistake. It's on theirs; they're the ones who are trained to know what to look for. You're off the hook.
Just wanted to put that out there, in case it rings true. Feel free to email me if you want to talk in more detail.
Welcome, fellow OCDer! We should commiserate sometime. :)
I wrote you a whole long post the other day about what helped me, and then lost it when I accidentally closed the window. Which serves me right for two reasons: (1) I was supposed to be leaving for work, and (2) you didn't ask for my advice.
But I did want to say briefly that for me, a lot of my anxiety was about trust and control -- not trusting anyone else to tell me I'm kosher, needing to make 1000% sure myself. And it really helped when my therapist pointed out to me that this is one of the beauties of the system: once you ask a rabbi, and he gives you a psak -- or once you ask the mikvah lady, and she tells you it's kosher -- it's not on your shoulders anymore if they made a mistake. It's on theirs; they're the ones who are trained to know what to look for. You're off the hook.
Just wanted to put that out there, in case it rings true. Feel free to email me if you want to talk in more detail.