Mikvah Night Weirdness
I had a weird night tonight.
But let's start at my point for posting - sometimes mikvah comes at an "inconvient" time. Albeit it was not my fault, I spent every night this week out of the house - not giving my kids the quality time they needed. Sunday we had relatives over and then a l'chaim to go to. Monday night we had a surprise l'chaim to go to (BH I got a babysitter at the last minute). Last night I had a doctor appointment followed by a major grocery shop at the kollel store. And tonight I had to scramble (AGAIN) for a babysitter so I could go to the mikvah.
In the end I found someone an hour and a half before I was due to leave for the mikvah, and boy was I sweating it. My kids didn't cry when I left, but I see that they are suffering because I haven't been home at night this week.
When the car service brought me to the mikvah, the haitian driver asked me, "So what is this place? A hospital or something? I'm always bringing people here. Is it a doctor's office or something?" I didn't want to tell him the emes, so I just said, "Or something." and got out of the car.
And then when I went inside there was someone ahead of me who was arguing with the front desk clerk about whether or not she could use conditioner - except the clerk basically only spoke Russian and Yiddish and the lady ahead of me only spoke French and Hebrew. Comical to say the least.
And then I had a mikvah lady I've never had before, and she was so attentive - it was a pleasure - she really inspected each fingernail and toenail instead of just glancing them over.
And then when I called for a car service to go home and I said, "I'm going to XXX Street," the driver answered, "123 XXX Street?" I answered, "Yes, and how do you know that?" His response was that he had heard them call for my pickup (on the way to the mikvah) over the radio. Ah, to be famous at the car service, lol.
And then when I got home, BOTH my children were still awake. Just what I don't want when I get home.
Although before I wished I could toivel on another night, in the end I was glad I went tonight. Gam Tzu La Tova!
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Isn't it wonderful that anyone with a cheap Radio Shack scanner can monitor the car service radio and find out every night who is going to the Mikva? If you don't recognize the address, you can do a reverse phone book lookup on the web.
Not to give you mussar...but you know a week in advance that you're going to the mikvah, right......so you can plan ahead for yourself to get enough rest, get dinner made ahead of time, take care of your little kids.....etc...
As far as relatives, that you have to do right - but a lechaim? Let your husband go! If it's a surprise, then pretend you didn't know! Why do a major shopping then? Do it before or after....or shop locally!
I don't know, maybe I'm hard-hearted, or maybe my priorities are different, but I would say NO to relatives - and I do so all the time......
I don't go to that many lechaims.......
And I have no problem faxing or phoning in my grocery orders.
And unless someone is dying, the doctor can be seen anytime. Unless the appointment is yours, let someone else take the kids.
If it's important to you, let the mikva week - or the few days before - be for you. Don't schedule things.
Get a haircut. Get a manicure/pedicure. Even if you just do them yourselves. Get more rest.
Treat yourself! Be a lady! it's not just for you, it's for you AND your husband!