stupid bedikah tricks, part 6 zillion and three
I don't know why I do this but once in a rare while I forget to call the rabbi before I bring a shaylah over. You can't tell whether he's there or not once you get there, you just put the envelope through his mail slot. He calls you whenever he comes home and picks it up.
Invariably the one time I forget to call, he's out of town for a week. Because it sometimes takes a day even under normal circumstances, I don't know this for sure until at least 2 days go by and I haven't heard from him.
The first time this happened we had to call my husband's chosson teacher and ask him for help, and he had to get the keys to the rabbi's house, retrieve the bedikah, and give it back to us, so we could then bring it over to the OTHER dayan's house and he could rule on it. Oy. It was several years ago and I sort of hope everyone concerned has forgotten by now, but I doubt it.
The second time I wasn't even sure my rabbi was away until the other rabbi called me instead. It turns out my rabbi had asked the other one to pick up any shaylahs while he was away. Handy solution, right? Maybe that's why I stopped worrying about whether anyone was going to be home.
So this time a few days go by, and we start to think maybe the rabbi has gone away again. Summertime, that would make sense. My husband calls his chosson teacher: yep, he's away... but the other rabbi is filling in for him. Eh?? Further conversation elicits the fact that when I dropped off my shaylah, my own rabbi was actually still in town. Wha????
No one knows where my shaylah is. The second rabbi is supposedly on call, but his phone just rings. The chosson teacher has been called at all the numbers we could find for him. And I still don't know what we're going to do when we reach somebody; what happens if they just can't find it?
And of course it was my hefsek tahara, not one of the dispensable ones...
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Damn. Keep us updated.
This type of thing has happened to me several times. Nearly every month I have to take shaylahs to my Rabbi. This past month, it was down to the wire. I didn't know if I could go to the mikvah until just a few hours before I was scheduled to go. It can be very frustrating. I hope you were able to get an answer and go to the mikvah as scheduled Eden...
Oy. Growing up in a Rabbi's home I can assure you that you are not the only one who makes these mistakes. As a teenage girl staying home alone while my parents were away I was put in the position on numerous occasions of either ignoring them since I had no idea what to do and I thought it was too embarrassing (when I was younger) or calling women to tell them that my father wasn't around so they should pick it up to bring it somewhere else (when I was older). Either way, it's never a good situation.